A Grumpy Husband
Yesterday I had 2 very grumpy people in my house. One of them was an adult (not me). This can disrupt the harmony and peace of the entire household. Believe me when I tell you, it was not pleasant.
My husband was very angry. He came home from work upset and just seemed to want to take it out on little, innocent me (smiles). But I have learned something over the years. I do not take it personally. When I sense his abrasive, unreasonable anger, I do what they did on the cartoon years ago… I “exit, stage right.” (smiles). I literally find a little corner in the house to hide in, like a kicked puppy. It’s not fun.
But last night was super hard for me. It was Chanukkah and we had presents to give to the children. I was supposed to light our Mennorah, get our story and Bible lesson ready and make sure the children were happy. How could I do that if I was almost in tears? I mean, I have an easier time dealing with grumpy children than I do with an angry husband. It seems to hurt far more than anything else that could go on in this house.
So this is what I did. . . I went off into John’s room for awhile. It is one of the few quiet rooms in the house. I just tried to calm down. I tried not to be upset…. after a little while, I got my courage up and thought: “Just because other people are angry in this house, does not mean I am going to let them ruin our family’s holiday!” So I got up, found John, smiled, turned on some nice music, and set up our table. John and I were happy. Slowly other people came into the room and joined in our fun. Everything was okay.
But I didn’t talk to my husband and he didn’t talk to me. We were not ignoring each other. Just keeping a distance. Later that night, he had to go out, so he came over and hugged me and told me he loved me very much. It was his way of saying he was sorry and adored me. All of a sudden everything was right with the world again.
Peace was restored in our home and I felt blessed and grateful to God.
We have to realize that when our men are out working in the world and are around the stresses of society and our culture, it is going to make them difficult, at times, to get along with. They do not have the peace and serenity of home. It is the wife’s job to make home the haven for him to come home to. Even if he comes home upset, she must be the nurse or missionary and just let him heal. It doesn’t mean she has to talk to him (smiles) or “take” the anger. But she is just there. He will heal from the calming, loving presence of home.
Hope you all have a wonderful day!!