Dear Wives and Mothers,
Oh, so many of you have troubles in your marriage because of the church and religion. Also women are not priests. See, you have to go by the Bible, not by what the church says. I mean you may get it all to work out for ya. But if you want the mind of Christ, that is another story. Our husbands are the priests of the home, whether he is full of lust or he don't read the Bible, or what not. He is the priest of the home. Eli was not a good priest but he blessed Hannah and she became pregnant. Eli was right part of the time. The worst thing and most dangerous thing that some of you are doing is taking spiritual authority in your home over your husband. DANGEROUS STUFF! I mean do you want to know the truth or do you want to go to church? Do you want a marriage or do you just want to play games with God?
In the past about 50 years, divorce has been granted over anything at all. But before that, you had a very hard time getting a divorce. In Ireland, divorce is illegal. Marriage is a holy union that is to bring you to Jesus. We must be ready to die for our marriages. We should be as martyrs to save our marriages at any cost.
Our example is not what did the church ladies do when their husband didn't do the dishes. Our example is Jesus Christ. We are to submit willingly to our husbands, even to those who are unbelievers. The priest of the home who is the unbeliever still calls the shots. If he leaves the home, then let him leave. But if he remains in the home, then there is still hope for him. Some of us wives are bond slaves. Jesus paid a price for us to be free, but we won't go. We are like Ruth who chose to stay. We are going to stay with our husbands no matter what. Even if he leaves us, or even if he is like Jim in heaven, we are bound to them. I can by Jewish law remarry. But this is not in my heart. I want to serve Jim by serving his children and grandchildren all of my life.
God wants us to serve Him and fight for His love as true servants of Christ. If we as wives can't serve our husbands with passion and sacrifice, then what picture of our service to Christ do we have? If a woman says, "I love Jesus and I would die for Him. I will carry my cross and die daily to serve Jesus." Then where is that example in her life? If you can't serve a husband, you won't serve God, either.
Many of you women are submitting to your pastor and not to your husband. We are to submit to the pastor that our husbands submit to. And only submit to the parts the husband obeys. It is not our job to be the Holy Spirit to our husbands. Pride tells us to boss our husbands.
If Jim ever got into my kitchen, I threw him out politely. I want a real man, not Mommy's helper. Jim used to tell folks, "My wife won't let me into the kitchen." I mean he got there if I got too sick to wrestle him. But, no, if he tried to fix supper one night a week, I would have hated it. My homemaking is my business as keeper at home.
And I agree with Mz Violet that the Christians in the church should be judged by the church. And these believers have come to this church and want to be judged. And this is good. But if the wife goes to that church and her husband doesn't, then the wife can't go home and judge the husband by the same rules. Her husband isn't even saved. And the wife is not the judge over her husband. The wife is not the spiritual head. And really she shouldn't be going to church without her husband's covering. I mean you can play games with God all ya want. And if your problems ain't that bad, you will get away with all this church stuff. But if you are in some real trouble like [another lady on our group], you are going to have to go to the bare bones of Christianity. You will have to get to the blood and guts of the gospel. And the Word says that we as Christian wives are to act like Christ at the cross. (1 Peter 2 and 3) We are like Christian slaves.
Christian Feminism
Some of you ladies are judging your lives and your husbands' lives with a backdrop of Christian Feminism. And if ya keep it up, your men will hate you. They will have a private life behind your back.
You are afraid to be a long suffering wife as you feel your husband will be one up on ya. You need to comfort your man as your king. Love him open-endedly. Not so he will do something for you. Love him as you love Jesus Christ. Abandon yourself unto your husband as unto the Lord.
If you put the church and their authority over the top of your husband's authority, then he will hate you for it and he will hate your church. Don't do that to a man. It's heartbreaking to me that you would. To hell with what the world has to say about your marriage. Shut the door on the world and love your husband as a love slave to your true husband, Jesus Christ. Love your husband and want him as you do Jesus Christ.
Let your marriage bed be honorable and clean in God's sight. Don't dishonor your marriage bed with birth control. And pray when you are with your husband that your lovemaking will honor the Lord and glorify Him.
Well, Baby is here so I have to quit.
Love,
Connie
