Dear Mothers,
A good friend of mine and I were talking on the phone a few days ago. She is a mother of a few children and is having a hard time figuring out submission to her husband. Her question was "How do you submit to a husband and tell him the truth at the same time when he is going the wrong way?" Well, we women of today don't really understand having a servant's heart. See, in the first books of the Bible, we had leaders like Noah and Moses. But most of the Bible characters that we take our teachings from were servants to ungodly kings in authority over them. Daniel and his friends did defy the king when they were asked to out and out defy God. But they were obedient daily, before that, to an ungodly ruler.
Our big acts of disobedience ain't gonna be noticed if we are all the time fighting our husband's authority. Sarah obeyed her husband again and again. She obeyed to be sold into adultery. Of course, God intervened on her behalf as she was chosen of God. And God will do the same for you. But we do have to earn our right to be heard. Not earn it from our husbands but from the Lord.
The Lord turns the heart of our husbands, not us. We do not win our husbands to the Lord or to His will by our words. We win them by our acts as told in the Word of God as Keepers at Home. Also as we reverence and praise our husbands. Just because we say "Yes Sir" and "No Sir" that isn't obeying our husbands as unto the Lord. The Lord has to be first in our lives. The Marriage Covenant has to be what we put first. We obey and reverence our husbands out of our obedience to God.
In the case of the captain and the soldier, the soldier may know a lot more then the captain. The soldier may have the wisdom of God and have a Godly Mother praying for him. But when they go to war, the soldier can't, all of a sudden, decide he is going to take over the battle and throw the captain in a foxhole. The soldier may BE RIGHT from his place of "seeing his" authority. But the soldier was not called of God to lead but to follow. And we women are called to follow as taught in the Word of God. We are absolutely not to take authority in our homes. As unknowing soldiers, we will cause much damage and will allow the spirit of deception to run rampant. You may be right on some things, dear soldiers, but being right in some of this stuff is not going to matter except maybe for the day. But you will win the battles daily and lose the whole dang war. And you will never get your battles over with -- you will fight them daily until you die. Let go of that authority and let your husband make his own mistakes. See, as you hold authority over your husband, especially spiritually, you are unleashing witchcraft in your home.
Ya know yesterday's writing about my driving? A lot of that was with tongue in cheek. But today I am not kidding you. I mean there is a wind of witches gathering as we speak. Who are they after the most? The HOUSEWIFE -- the keeper at home. Don't think that God is magically going to save you wives who used to be submissive and he will reward you. No way, lady! You either fight this thing to the end or give up and fall in your own grave.
Most of the men and women in the Bible were under the authority of unbelievers, including Jesus Christ. No one got to do what they wanted unless they were a King. Well, Jezebel got to do what she wanted, up to point. But that ol' girl lived a short life and died a horrid death. No, dear heart, if you can't submit to your husband, who you can see, you aren't submitting to God who you can't see.
A, this writing is not aimed at you. Several have asked me about submission to our husbands lately. Many of you are having a problem with it lately because of the heresy out there in Christendom is very strong right now. Deception is very strong right now. Do what is right. Cast the evil out.
Oh, there is a storm cloud brewin' and the religious feminists are gathering. The worldly feminists aren't dangerous -- they are just plain foolish. But the religious feminists are the ones to run like h--- from. They have power from Satan and they are after the housewife. They want to kill her husband and take her covering. They want to flush her out into the world where she has no protection.
Ya know I think we Keepers at home have the wrong picture of the submissive wife. I have seen a woman who I used to know. She didn't even read the Word of God for herself. Her husband read it and interpreted it for her. Well, that's OK to an extent. But she needs to read the Word, too. She is God's daughter and He wants to fellowship with her. Now Mary, Jesus' mother, didn't go ask any man if it was OK that she was impregnated by the Word of God. Elisabeth disagreed with her husband. See, some women stand around in fear and say they are submissive wives. That is not a true virtuous woman. The true virtuous woman is a woman of great faith in God. She is enough in herself that she can submit to an ungodly husband. She trusts in God and His plans for her life.
Ya know I have told you in past writings of the vision I used to have of myself. I was a work horse always hitched up to a cart. I had blinders on and was under authority. The church ladies ran and were always loose in the meadow having a ball. I was always upset as I couldn't run free like they did. But God had me bridled for a purpose. I didn't like it but I have learned that this bridling was for a reason. Eventually, the other wild mares were caught and tied up in a crowded barn. They had no one special person to love them. They would never submit to a bridle, a place of dignity and purpose. No one man or woman has a right to say they can do as they want and they don't have to answer to anyone. All of us as Christians will have to be willingly strapped to a place of dignity or we will be given up on and let out with the herd. We may run free all of our lives but we will miss God's best for us.
You can't shoot a gun without aiming. You may shoot the target accidentally but it's doubtful. We must willingly lay down our lives to purpose and dignity with our families. We must fight the good fight to show our children how to do it. Our trials are not set before us to destroy us but to cause us to win a spiritual battle.
I used to say to God, "Lord, what are you going to do in my life?" He would say to me, "I don't know until you act -- until you decide what you are going to do." God is waiting on us to act in either obedience or disobedience. Oh, sure, God has a purpose for us and our families. He calls us as women of God to special callings in the home. One of us may be stronger as a wife more then a mother. We may have a special gift to be a wife to an unsaved husband. But God can't go over the top of our will and make us be a special wife. We may have this calling but we can abort this seed of truth in our hearts.
Most of us, I would say, don't totally fulfill the great calling of God on our lives. Why? Because we become discouraged. Mostly we believe the lies of Satan. He tells us we will never make it and then we tell everyone we know, including our kids, that we will never make it. We tell all the neighbors and all our Christian friends that we will never make it in this life. Then we give everyone a list of reasons why we won't make it. How our husbands will never amount to a hill of beans, and on and on we travel, telling everyone what the devil said about us. Well, we curse ourselves. And it's all a pack of lies, anyway.
God gives us the truth on how to win an unsaved husband to the Lord. "But it takes too long, Lord." But I am here to tell ya, sweetheart, it takes a lot longer disobeying God. We are called to long suffering. We are called to wait upon the Lord and trust in Him.
Any wife standing before her husband, in fear shivering in her boots, is not a picture of a virtuous woman. Ya know Jim told our boys many times as they got older, "Don't ever mess with your Mother -- you will be sorry you did." It's not because I was so tough but Jim knew that my God was going to get him if he didn't take care of me and protect me as a good husband should. In everything Jim ever wrote, he wrote, "Men, take care of your families." Wild Man learned that the hard way. Not because I prayed curses on him when he deserted me. But because I blessed him and loved him through his life as a rebel. I truly loved him and he felt comfortable enough to tell me his sins. I humbled myself before him and he humbled himself before me.
Now all of this didn't come overnight, as you well know. But God did humble Jim over the long haul. And often, in the end, Jim would ask for advice from me. I didn't give Jim unasked for advice. But there were times, in the past few years, that he would almost beg me to tell him what I thought about this or that. I felt very honored that he did ask me about what I felt. I mean day to day, I was able to say what I thought about surface stuff. But the big decisions, I let him make them. Often I would hug him as he was going out the door to work and I would whisper in his ear, "Give not thy strength to women or thy ways to which destroy kings." I tried to let Jim pray about things and get a word from the Lord on his own. I mean you don't want a pansy man who can't think on his own. We train our men often as wives to do evil.
Many of you women are very powerful in God. When you go to swing that spiritual ax, you could knock out about a hundred folks you didn't even mean to swing on. You need to control the spiritual part of yourself and be sure to aim at what you plan on killing. If you can't shoot that spiritual gun and aim it right, then God won't let you shoot it at all. God gives the spiritual power to the women He can trust. Those who know how to aim. To the women who will willingly stand still as the bridle is buckled around her. She will willingly stand still as the blinders are put upon her eyes. She is not afraid of the halter of dignity. She hears the voice of Jesus and obeys Him.
Many of us wives, we don't hear GOD'S voice. We hear and obey Satan. He buckles you up with fear and tells you you won't make it, and you obey him and fear. We are to resist evil and refuse to be tied up to it. Don't let Satan rope you and gag you. We are to hear the voice of God. If we won't take on the bridle of dignity and purpose, then how can Jesus lead us to Victory? If we won't listen to our Father, then how will we find our purpose as Christian Wives and Mothers? It isn't all up to God as we go around cursing our families. He may give us a command but if we are refusing His tug in our mouth to go left, then why do we blame Him? If we refuse His warnings and His voice, then why do we blame Him when things go wrong? And though a righteous man (woman) fall seven times, she will not be utterly cast down. That's a part of learning the walk of the virtuous woman, is to fail. But we are not utterly cast down. Our scars make us tough.
Spiritual knowledge is better than natural strength. Our spiritual knowledge and spiritual strength, bridled under housewifery and wifely submission, is a powerful weapon of warfare. We are Covenant Keepers. God will not bless us outside of His Covenant. Inside His Covenant is peace and power. Inside the Covenant, we will see many miracles. The blood of Jesus is shed for His commands and Promises. If you want Him in on your family, then stand for His marriage Covenant. Many will do mighty works in His name that He will cast them out because they don't know Him. His Covenant is nothing they fought for. They have ignored Him as they have ignored His Word. They refused to be bridled to serve Him.
Love,
Connie