Sunday, December 17, 2017


pt 1 Called of God to be a Wife

Chrissy called today from NYC..She is such an artist,,And she sure helped
me with some advice.. She has always told me to never create for money..Or
in other words dont let money dictate to you how to create something..Its
good if you can make money at it…But dont create something only to sell
..To your own self be true in what you created..Does it say something about
who you truely are..Most artists are trail blazors.. they have a message..i
have things in my heart that i dont say..i bet the Lord wont let me get
away with that either..He has called me to be a writer.. Oh so here is what
is in my heart ..Maybe whats in my heart will make you love your husband
more,,i dont know..But here it is and what it says i dont know..My heart is
so grieved and i pine so for my husband Jim.. i want to shut the world off
and just write about Jim…i cant stop loving him..When he first died it
wasnt so hard to take..i some how kept going..But lately its so much
harder..Grief is so hard to is never predictable.. i tried
to enjoy the day today with my neighbor lady friend up the street..But my
heart is so heavy all the time for Jim.. Well i had 6 children with him and
i had one miscarriage..Papa was so grieved he wrote the date down in our
family Bible..Oh Papa and i grew up together..i was 18 and he was 25..i was
priveleged to help him..i was called of God to walk in that prison he was
in and marry him..It was my privelege..We women are called as helpmates to
our men..We are called to tame them down thru our love and our
forgiveness..This is why God called us to be creative helpers to our
husbands..We must encourage our husbands to work by being happy with what
money they give us..And a man needs to lead the family,,He needs to be the
head of the house..We as wives can be creative and make things at home…We
can learn to make the things we need..Not only to save money..But lately so
much of our food is filled with chemicles and it isnt even safe to eat..We
shud be able to make a good loaf of bread…Even white bread is better then
buyin it at the store..the chemicals make the bread last for atleast a
month..Homemade Bread only lasts about a week before mold starts to grow on

Pt 3 A Mountain Mother by Connie in 2002

Rubie is powerful as she lives out of the inner court.. She has fasted this world and their opinions ..she has done this by willingly taking on submittion to her husband.. She has walked willingly over to the cart and has hitched her own self up and has put blinders on her own eyes..This is true submittion ..Walking in a worldy fear of your husband is not …of God..Infact its dangerous to walk in any kind of fear..True submittion is for a woman to willingly decide to follow God and His word..She casts down her own flesh and bridles it herself..She is a woman of integrity..and strength and virtue.. She lets go of this world and submits to her husband ..and then the gifts of the spirit begin to flow like a river..She then has the freedom to cook and sew and bake her own bread…She becomes joyous in her homemaking..The gifts of inventions begin to flow..if her money has offended her then she casts it out.. if money has stopped her from flowing in her baking then she casts it out.. Maybe housewives you could tell your husbands that you want less money for groceries.. If money gets in your way and makes you too lazy to make your own bread then cast it out..The mothers of the old times were happy because they had work to do and the family depended on them ..Maybe we as mothers today need to create our own lack…We hear so much about fasting and not eating ..And yet we are so gutted with material things .so much more wicked than food… We need to fast the material things and the things of this world.and worldly opinions ..We are drowning in sea of food and money and “things”.We need to cast down this cloud over our heads of the many voices of this world..And turn to the wisdom of God…ConnieJ says often in her writings that she can hear her mothers voice so strongly at times..and her mothers voice condemns her and leaves her feeling helpless and forsaken..Well i know how she feels as i have faced this torment too as a young mom..Many of us have with the inflow of the feminist spirit.. This voice just cuts us to the quick .It is Jezabels voice…And yet the Lord tells us to listen to wisdoms voice in His word in Proverbs..But we think Well doesnt that prove i am nuts if i go around seeing an old fashioned lady who instructs me as a helper to God.?.Jezabel makes fun of us and we think nothing of it? But God sends us wisdom as the virtuous woman and we cast her out? Do we think we are in deception when we see in our minds eye Jezabel? I mean she trys to just come in and live at our house..and we let
her..But when wisdom comes we wonder about that and think it is strange..Jezabel is the strange woman ,,not wisdom….We have learned to accept the person of jezabel…We get so worried about looking ok to the world in all that we do..We worry about our reputation and are we a good testimony to others..Well Jesus never was a good testimony to the people who didnt love God.. Solomon ask God for wisdom and God gave it to him..Ya know why ? Because he wanted it above his reputation? And above the life of his enemies..He refused to hold unforgiveness in his heart ..he gave it up in order to receive wisdom..And he could care less what folks thought of him…And he became a great man because of wisdom..he built his temple with wisdom..and this is how we are to build our homes ..” with wisdom” With wisdom a house is built ..In the end Solomon became very rich materially..But he didnt put riches first..Wisdom came first..Love ConnieH

Pt. 1 A Mountain Mother….old writing of Connie’s April 15, 2002

Dear Mothers lately i have sensed the voice of a woman from the mountains.. last nite as i went to sleep i could sense her presence.. I have heard writers on tv express how they write fiction.. I am not one to write fiction..but i can understand how these writers come up with the characters in their stories..they just have this per…son inside them…Well this mother i am going to write about ..well i will call her Rubie.. The reason i am writing her down is because i know she has something to teach us…Well i will start..She spoke out of my heart last nite..She said “We live under more pressure and danger than you mothers do..I wouldnt dream of getting up in the morning and not submitting to my husband…I have so little materially and i feel so unprotected ..We live off the land ..and yet there is much crime around us.. And yet i have found a place of refuge in God and His word.. I hide in my husbands authority..My life is much more touch and go than yours is..I wouldnt dream of not submitting to my husband..Even a step out of submission could be dangerous for me spiritually..And yet as i submit i have a peace that passeth understanding.. I love my place of submission..My place under my man is a holy sacred place..It is there that i find a perfect peace…There are times when i dont agree with him and i cant submit..these are times that horror and grief dog me and i feel that i will surely die of a broken heart..I suffer so at these times ..there seems to be no medicine to heal my torn heart..It is not because of my disobedience when i suffer like is my husbands disobedience ..For a short itme i am left without a covering..its only a short like a time when i have no place on the earth to rest my head…But then through my prayers my husband comes back into line..My submission to my husband is pretty every day stuff for the most part..Sure, early in the marriage he would ask me to do something and then i would consider it and then sometimes i would submit and sometimes not..We didnt have much harmony in our home..Just alot of stops and starts trying to learn to walk out our lives togehter as one..Well now years later i have learned to walk in submittion on a pretty day to day basis..He and i have it pretty much settled in our hearts..Now i can look
away from him and be free to be a mother and homemaker too.. I have a strength as i just wear my submittion to my husband …Oh sure i still have to touch base with him often ..but i am no longer walking in fear that i am not pleaseing God or that i am out of submittion to my husband..I have a confidence in the Holy Spirit that i am where God wants me.. I am in a place where i can receive the miracles i need to just keep on keeping on..But i would fear if i was not reverent to my husband ..Some of you ladies think nothing of telling your husbands off and walking away as if nothing mattered.. I am here to tell you that judgement day will come for you on that unless you repent of it..Your husband was made for God ..he is Gods son..and you are Gods helper and your husbands helper…God has chosen you to bring your man to God in a deeper way..You are not here on earth as an end in itself..YOur husband is Gods son you are a helper and will find a place of power as you take on this yoke of helper …We as mothers and wives are not to be glorified in our homes ..the glory goes to our husbands from God…We must rest in this place is a holy sacred place..We must lay down our fears ….connie.

pt 3 Spiritual Rest…

Well i have been up most of the night ..But i am glad i got some things
figured out ..Hopefully i will be peaceful now..i can see i just have to
obey the Lord..i dont have to be perfect to write..i just have to obey the
Lord and write ..There is no rest like spiritual rest..i pray i will be
like little Samuel..when he was a child..He heard the Lord speak to him and
he said “Speak Lord for thy servant heareth”….love connie

Pt. 2

Well God was faithful and my wild man came to the Lord..He had come to the Lord about  3 months before he got out for the last 3 and a half yr sentence.,i didnt know that he had really come to the Lord..But he just kept recommiting his life to the Lord,…over and over again..Keeping up with him as i write this is as hard as keeping up with him as always..when he was alive..But yes he was a hard act to follow.,,And lately with times so hard as they are.i  am so glad to be able to give others hope..Honest hope..after living thru many impossible situations myself..i can tell Randy that i know the Lord  is healing him as he has inopperable cancer,,i believe the Lord ..i am not a new comer as i approach Randy with this hope…My  hope is real…i some how paid the price..i didnt give up..i am so comforted also ladies as i get so many emails  from ladies who tell me..”Connie your writings have changed my life..thank you for your faithfulness…” See i wasnt just waiting on Jim to change..but God was waiting on me to change,,”Wud i believe HIm that nothing was impossible with God”?? God saw you girls ,,,some  of you..He made me who i was in order to influence you for Jesus..So i wasnt just standing in order to save my own hide…but to be an influence ..Thats why it was so hard.Oooh i see now..i didnt know this 40 yrs ago.i  only looked at what i cud see..But this is why some of you suffer so much,.God is working a plan that you cannot connie

pt 1 Submissive wives

Christian wives shud submit to their husbands..A wife who is truely submissive will be the example to their children to show them     how  to obey their parents..There  are  many blessings for a woman who lives under the authority of her husband..Where do we get the idea that Jesus wasnt a door mat ? Jesus left us the example of obedience…1 Peter 2;21 For even hereunto were you called ;because Christ also suffered for us.leaveing us an example that we shud follow in His steps..22 who did no sin neither was gilde found in His mouth..{deceit} 23 who when He was reviled He reviled not again..When he suffered , He threatened not; but commited Himself to Him  that judges righteously…24 who His own self bare our sins in His own body on the tree  ..that we being dead to sins, shud live unto righteousness …By whose stripes ye were healed..1Peter 3;1 LIKEWISE  YE WIVES BE IN SUBMISSION TO YOUR OWN HUSBANDS,,That if any obey not the Word ..they will without the Word be won    by the coversation of the wives…{ or the actions of the wife.}So      the    wife becomes a picture of the suffering Christ dying for the unbelievers as she lays down her life for her unbelieving connie

pt 1 My Life is Hidden in Christ

Dear Mothers,,i went to a dear friends funeral yesterday..Mrs Clara Bunker,,Oh wow its a funny name. But the woman Clara ,,oh she was such a funny woman..For  40 yrs she  worried herself sick over the question of “Can a Christian lose their salvation? ” She was the most Godly wife and mother that any of us knew,,But she worried every day that she wud go to Hell..i met her when i was in my 20s and she was in her 50s…She wud come and visit me as we lived about 6 blocks away..Also her daughter Bonnie and i were good friends..But Mrs Bunker wud tell me “Now Connie one day Jim will come home and he will be a good husband to you”..She wud tell me that Jim wud see that i was a good woman and that i stayed home and i didnt go out with other men..Well  she was right.,.Jim did  come home and we did finally have a happy life together..But oh thank God for the saints in my life who rallied around me when i was a young mother ..Oh God bless them…i finally got to meet Bonnie and Chucks preacher.Bonnie is Claras daughter and she is married to Chuck  who i won to the Lord many yrs ago..It was Chucks son Sean that gave the sermon for the funeral..After the funeral a man came up to me and smiled…”Do you remember me Connie”? i said i sure did..His name was Bill…i was out street witnessing ..i was about 23 yrs old..And i won Bill to the Lord in a store where he worked  40 yrs ago…When  Jim wud leave me i wud go out witnessing and won many to the Lord..Bonnies preacher came up to me after the funeral..Do you know that you have influenced most of the people in this church for Christ ?” I have never met you but i have been hearing about you for 40 yrs..” i stood there thinking of it all..i thot to myself..”Well its no wonder i feel so spiritually tired..” It just didnt hit me i guess..i was only trying to be a faithful follower of Christ….The Lord just kept my trials of faith,,i was nothing and He was everything..The yrs take me back to my lil kitchen on the West side of town,,Mrs Clara wud call me and say “Connie please pray for Bonnie she is going out with Chuck again,,” Oh we all wanted to send Chuck far away from Bonnie..He was a drug addict and  alcoholic..We wanted Bonnie at 18 to marry a Christian man,,But she wanted Chuck..Chuck was not who we wanted her out with..So one nite Bonnie brot Chuck to my house..and we sat in my lil kitchen,,Chuck gives  the testimony many yrs later..”The last thing i remember was Connie saying something and then i about fell in the floor…i got up and i said “I think i just received Christ as my personal savior..” Chuck was completely set free of drugs and alcohol..i mean over nite..It was a miracle..He imediately took up his Bible and cudnt put it down,,He then started teaching the Bible..Bonnie and Chuck got married and had 2 children,The son had become a hopeless drug addict about the time our Mary was into drugs,,,And God set Chucks son free like he had set  Chuck  free..And now Sean is a wonderful preacher too..What a tall handsome man he is ..what a joy he is to all of us..He has a beautiful family..and he lives a good life.. All of these men were hopeless cases ,,But God set them free….Nothing is impossible with God..i wasnt anything that i won these people to Christ..i was just a tool in the hands of Jesus,,My own life at the time was an utter disaster..But Jesus showed me to give and it wud be given to me..i had no money to give or anything else..But what i had was worth more then Gold..Love connie

Women of Honor

Dear Mothers,

Oh, I am enjoying having Olivia Jean, 4 years old, to watch each day. (Not weekends.) Yesterday afternoon we went on a picnic. My neighbor friend Linda babysits also, so we all went together. We walked to a park uptown. It’s just a short walk of about six blocks. Then later on yesterday, Johnny brought Rose and Romeo to see me. We all had supper. Just goulash. John needed to pick up his lawn mower. Olivia enjoyed playing with the grand kids. I am so surprised that Olivia entertains herself in the mornings and I can write. I thought I would have to do all of my writings about 5:00 in the morning before Olivia got here. But I guess I can still write as usual.

What has been on my heart lately is abused women. Ya know when you talk about “submission” on a group like ours, everyone thinks you mean putting up with abuse and all kinds of malarkey. But we as submissive wives use Jesus Christ as our example. (1 Peter 2 and 3) Jesus didn’t go to the cross because He was too afraid to run the other way. Jesus had prayed in the Garden about going. He didn’t want to go. But He made a decision to go in His quiet night of prayer. Many times, as the people tried to kill Him, He disappeared in the crowd. He could have gotten out of dying at Calvary’s cross. He had a choice and decided to die for the sins of His people. Women of honor are like this. No one makes a woman of dignity do anything that she hasn’t already decided to do, made a decision to do.

Jesus carried his cross to Calvary. He didn’t go because He was afraid of the soldiers. And once He got on the cross, He could have called the angels to take Him down. He who had healed the multitudes could have healed Himself. The Roman soldiers mocked Him and lied about Him. But He was a soldier of dignity and honor and He didn’t answer them back. He didn’t need to answer His accusers — he knew the truth and stood for it. And folks will lie about us as Christian Mothers and accuse us of all kinds of things. What does it matter to daughters of Sarah? Let them accuse you and mock you. A woman of dignity stands strong and tall in the face of accusations. She doesn’t answer back. She lets God answer for her. And if He doesn’t at the time answer for her, then she is still not moved.

A woman of dignity is a woman who is never caught off guard. She pivots from the inner man, the meek and quiet spirit. But an abused woman is skittish. She flits from one thing to the other. She smiles in front of her husband and when he turns his back, she is unfaithful. She has never made a decision one way or the other to be faithful. She moves by her fears and is like a hungry dog sneaking food when no one is looking. She lies continually about where she was and why it took her so long to get back home. Her husband can’t get the truth out of her for anything. And a lot of women like this scream abuse because their husbands won’t let them go to work or buy new clothes every week. But these women have a personality of foolishness. They don’t understand the woman of honor any more then they can understand their place as Keepers at Home. Many of these women are stingy with their husbands and children. They want what they want and now. They will take a man down and use up all he has and has worked for.

Now I realize children get abused. And they can’t help it. They are children and they aren’t mature enough to protect themselves. But a mature Christian wife would never live in abuse. One way or the other, she will work her way out of it. Jesus had a wonderful childhood for all we know from the scriptures. He then started His ministry at age 30 and died on the cross at 33. But He lived in a private religious home most of His life. He wasn’t beat every day or abused as a child. But when the time came for Him to give up His life, He knew it. No one browbeat Him to go to the cross.

And I realize there are some women who really are abused and don’t know where to turn for help. But to me being abused is a choice. A woman of strength and dignity will never allow anyone to abuse her.

The Word, in 1 Peter 3, says while they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. In other words, when a woman has a heart like Sarah, meek and quiet, a man becomes afraid of her. He beholds her pure actions and becomes fearful to cross her. And Dang! Don’t any of you give me any dirt on this stuff because I have earned my right to say it. But, see, some of you think that submission is “Yes Sir” and “No Sir” — it’s a lot more then that. We submit to our husbands to win him and the children to Jesus Christ. It’s a long hard process sometimes but that’s why a Christian wife submits to an unsaved husband. Or one who is saved but doesn’t obey the Word of God.

Our behavior as wives is to be holy and set apart unto God. We are to learn in silence and subjection. We are to be holy in our places as keepers at home. Our Home is our ministry. As we submit to our husbands, this is our submission to Christ. And the heavenlies line up with God’s authority and under Him is Christ and under Jesus is our husbands. As we pull in under our husbands, then our husbands are forced to pull in under Christ. It is that our hearts are submissive. We have hearts that are humble and obedient.

But we don’t always submit to our husband’s flesh. If he walks in the house and says, “I want a divorce” then, no, we don’t submit. But we have a meek and quiet heart of submission. We soften his heart by our faith in him. That he is the man of our prayers and you think the better of him. And you stay in an attitude of love and holiness. You don’t receive his decision to get a divorce. I mean God is on your side. If you are a covenant woman and a woman of honor, then you don’t want a divorce. But you must be quiet and submit to your husband. And if he wants you to file for a divorce, you do out of obedience. But you pray that God will intervene.

In the early days of my marriage, Jim came in the door one day after being gone for three months and said, “I want a divorce.” Well, I was way ahead of him and was prayed up. I didn’t want to laugh in his face so I ran to the bedroom to laugh. I was so glad to see him and had worried so much about his welfare. When I came out of the bedroom, he had Jimmy, 4 years old, sitting on the table and telling him that he was to always love his Mother but that Daddy didn’t love her anymore. I laughed like crazy over that. Finally, I looked into Wild Man’s eyes and I said, “Oh, Honey, everything will be alright.” Jim then admitted that he loved me but was just so tired of hurting me. I told him I was alright and that God was going to take care of us. I didn’t stand and preach at Jim as he would have hated that. I would just say then, “Honey, are you hungry?” And I would make him some food. My heart went out to him as he wasn’t saved, as I was. My husband didn’t know Jesus and my heart of compassion cared so for Jim.

Then I think that time he stayed home for about 2 months and ran away again. His mother died and no one could find Jim. He would hide out for months and no one could find him. Oh, such a troubled man he was. But, see, the Lord has a plan for these men. He wants them to become saved. And, see, a wife can obey God until hell freezes over and nothing will happen. But there comes a day as she is obeying God with her eyes fixed upon Him and not her circumstances. And the appointed day comes and God moves like a mighty wind upon her husband. But no man comes to Christ by the obedience of the wife only. But God moves as the wife prepares the way in the wilderness. She is a John the Baptist calling for her husband to look at the Savior. And one day, on the appointed day, Husband is miraculously saved and delivered.

And ya know, dear wives, as you act like Sarah and you study her in 1 Peter 2 and 3, you will become more like her. You must cultivate your soul and spirit so that you will become the virtuous woman. Virtue means power! The woman of power in this present world is the wife and mother at home. The woman who takes on the cloak of housewifery is the woman of honor and dignity. And the day will come as you follow and are taught of Sarah that you will see your husband come to Christ.

As you submit to your husband and honor him, you are moving the heavenlies about. You are loosing things in heaven and your husband will be loosed on earth. As you stand under the light of heaven through your obedience, you absolutely move the angels to move upon your mate. You sway the heavenlies with your holy obedience to God. When you willingly take up your cross and die daily to self and to this world, you move the Father’s heart. And you become a ruby ring upon His hand. And He moves His unseen hand and causes the circumstances to change. Your obedience will come up to His heavenly throne and the fragrance of your obedience will be a fragrance that He cannot live without. You become the Lord’s bride and He cannot live without you. You become so precious to Him as He sees your life being created for Him.

And the wife learns holy obedience as Christ did through what she has suffered. She comes through the cross as only God has designed. And she takes it all as Christ did at the cross. She is lied on and gossiped about. And yet she enters a marriage that God ordained and made with His own hands. And as before she suffered more than most wives, she now rejoices as no one else understands lest they went through the same sufferings. She has finally learned the wisdom of God. She wouldn’t go through that again for anything and yet she wouldn’t trade the experience for the wisdom she learned for all the gold and silver in the world. Because it wasn’t gold and silver that brought her through. But it was a holy obedience to God and to Him alone that delivered her and her loving and now saved husband.

And, yes, you can browbeat a man into walking the aisle at church and makin’ him say he is saved. But this is not the Bible way. And you will end up with a man who is only good at church and hell at home. What you must aim for is to show your husband by your holiness in the home that we must know God in a personal way. Because church won’t take you to heaven, only through the blood of Christ. Jesus must be your God, your only Lord. And as you suffer, dear Christian wife, turn only unto the Lord.

The angels are watching you. And whether you can know it or not, your unsaved husband is watching you, too. As you press on heaven with your obedience, the Lord will pull your husband into a holy place. And a sweet hour of prayer will come and you will see the Lord’s miracles and His glory. He promised and He will answer you and give you exceedingly and abundantly more then you can ask or think. He has Promised and He is not a man that he should lie.

1 Peter 3 Likewise ye wives be in subjection to your own husbands that if any obey not the word they will also without the word be won by the actions of the wife. The actions of holy obedience brings the heavenlies into place. And one day this obedience moves the heart of God. And husband hears the voice of God and surrenders his heart to Christ.


Submitting to Christ

Well, Poor OLD Aunt Toot is coming for a visit this afternoon. I am makin’ coffee. I made goulash earlier, as Dan may stop by later. I want to write soon on obedience. Well, I will write a bit now on it.

I was watchin’ Pastor Hagee this morning and I liked his sermon. Part of it, he was saying the church needs to preach Jesus Christ as King of kings and Lord of lords. I agree with that. But, ya know, I would add to that this. We need to accept Him and His word. So much is preached about praising Him and His glory and all. I agree. But what I would add is this. WE need a heart change! WE have to learn to submit to God.

We have such a Social Gospel goin’ on. It’s an easy Gospel to follow. When we praise the Lord and we hear the story of Christ’s death, burial, and resurrection, this is just the beginning. The important idea is “Do we believe it and would we offer our life for what we believe?” See, it has to hit us in the heart.

We can praise God and that is something we do, but will we submit to His will? Will we cry out, “Lord not my will but thine be done?” Most of my early marriage was a daily submission to His will. Every day I wanted to do what I wanted to do. Give Up? But I had to study the word to have a meek and quiet spirit. And even at that, it was not me who submitted to God but Christ within me did. In myself, I could do nothing. And this is to be our lives as sacrificial lambs of God. We are to die daily to ourselves and to what we want. We must cry out, “Not my will, Lord, but Thy will be done in my life.”

There are so many half truths being taught. Why? Because the foundation of the Bible and God’s plan is the family. The husband as head and priest of the home under God. The wife is to submit to her husband and the children under the parents. This is a picture of Christ and the Church. And the Bible says that any man who doesn’t have his house in order can’t be a pastor or a deacon. Women are not to take authority in the church. But now days, we have church teachings built upon half truths.

We are to build our house upon the Rock, upon the truth. So we end up only praising the Lord at church and not allowing the Holy Spirit to convict us and pull at our heartstrings. The religious teachings of the day are built on sand because the foundation of Bible teachings is missing.

The religion of the day is missing the heart of God. It’s boring and not cutting edge. It’s missing the excitement and the power. The glory so many of these preachers talk about is not based on the foundations of Christ and His word. This glory they are calling down with filthy evil hands? They better hope it don’t come? It’s God’s grace that it hasn’t come down and burned them up. We must be seekers of His truth first and then His glory will come.

Study to be Quiet

Dear Mothers of the Home. Good Morning! Praise the Lord for another day to cook and bake and sew. To submit to our husbands and to care for our precious children.

I am thinking of my precious little grandbabies this morning. Oh, they are both so cute. They were very excited when Aunt Chrissy came, as she always brings them cute little clothes. She brought them two tops apiece this last time. Baby Rose ran in the our house and said, “Gramma, look at my new coat.” Her Mom said, “Kambree (her real name), that’s not a coat — it’s a sweater.” But Baby usually has the more lightweight sweaters or sweatshirts. So she thought the heavier sweater was a coat. But Baby Rose is so thankful for everything. She is just a delight. Romeo is all boy and wouldn’t try his sweater on. We love this little rascal just the same.

But this morning, as I am up early this morning, I think of the scriptures that say in 1 Thess. 4:11 That ye Study to be quiet, to do your own business, and to work with your own hands Verse 12 that you may walk honestly toward them that are without and that ye will have lack of nothing. Boy, those scriptures there are loaded. STUDY to be QUIET? We should study the meek and quiet spirit that 1 Peter 3 speaks of. The holy women of old adorned their inner man with submission to their husbands.

My friend Jill and I used to speak of the inner man as our dime — I don’t know why. But if something hit us in the inner sanctuary of our hearts, we would say, “That hit my dime!”

The inner court of our Spirits is what we need to keep quiet. We need to STUDY to keep that part of our souls quiet. That inner court is where Esther came before the King. That was a physical inner court. But we as God’s people are made up like the temple made of hands. We have a outer court and inner court and a place for the holy of holies. Decisions are to be made in the inner court. We have an outer court where we commune with other believers. But the inner court is where Jesus is and we aren’t to act on anything in the spirit that doesn’t come out of the inner court. Out of the meek and quiet spirit.

Our nervous system as women is in the inner court. In this place of submission to our husbands, we live and breath and have our being. When we get fearful and crazy and nervous, it means we have come out of the inner court. We are out there running with this and that person’s ideas. We have forgotten our husband’s heart and his ways. It’s very easy to run out of the inner court. This is why we have to STUDY to learn how to stay under our husbands.

I get out of that inner court and I am like a scared rabbit and wolves chase me like they haven’t eaten in ten days. And the Lord will let me get chased about until I am about dead then He says, “Oh, Connie, come over here.” And he shows me a rabbit hole to take refuge in.

We as wives and mothers are called to be keepers at home. We are to study to stay in this teaching. And why? So that we can walk honestly before those who are without, and that we would have lack of nothing. I know some of you work part time. But just make sure that your heart is at home. The Bible says that the strange woman is the one who won’t stay home. Jim said a few days ago about the women on TV, “Boy, those women are strange.” And they are. God has called us women to study to be quiet. To work with our own hands and to mind our own business.

The Bible speaks of the widows who are worthy to be taken in by the church. They were to live honest lives. Did they care for the saints of God? Were they full of good works? Had she brought up children? All meaning works in the home. Was she faithful at home? Did she live an honest life and follow the Word of God? The Bible tells the young widows to marry again and bear children. The Word says the young widows are the ones under 60.

We are to STUDY to mind our own business and to submit to our own husbands.

And, ya know, Jim is the easiest guy to get along with. My home is very quiet and peaceful. But sometimes I am crazy inside and so nervous I could jump through the ceiling. And wouldn’t ya know, we don’t have health insurance and if I did go nuts, I would remain nuts forever. But we women don’t have to go nuts — we can stay under the Lord and in His place of peace. We are to study to do this. This is to be our Bible study. It is to learn how to stay in submission to our husbands and to be quiet and to trust in the Lord.

See, God has a plan for us. And when we submit to our husbands, He begins a plan and then as we jump out of submission, then the plan is aborted. We need to keep ourselves under submission so that God can complete His plan. As we submit, this is as a seed planted. When we jump out of submission, we are digging our faith seed back up.

What takes us out of submission to our husbands? It is pride. “My husband doesn’t know what the hell he is doin'” type of stuff. Or “Husband doesn’t understand where I am and if I tell him, he would blow up.” No, you don’t need to tell your husband every feeling you have. But none of we women are above the laws of God just because we are more spiritual than our husbands. We are called to stay under our husbands’ spiritual covering. We are to STUDY to stay in peace. To walk peacefully as servants of Christ.

Another woman’s home is her business. We are not to meddle in her affairs. Now on this group, we have many sisters who need to be taught to be keepers at home. Teaching them the Word of God is not meddling or tattling. The Bible tells the older woman to teach the younger to love her husband and children and to be keepers at home. But when ya get out of this teaching, then you get into tattling and gossip.

We as Mothers and wives are to represent our own husbands in what we teach or say. As we run out of our place of peace and rest with our husbands, we get into all kinds of deceptions and mostly our nerves get so shot in the head. Our temple is our minds. And the devil attacks us as we run out of our places of blessings in our husbands. And to be continually in and out of submission is to be double minded and unstable in all of our ways. And it takes a lot of trust to stay submissive. Not trust primarily in your husband but trust in God.

Man, I get so upset at times with my older kids. But I have to trust in God and stay in my peace with Jim. Jim can trust the Lord for the kids most of the time. So my place is to be under him and trust in the Lord, too. And as I cook and do my homemaking, I am walking honestly before my kids and showing them the example of holiness. We live on little money and my kids have more money. But as I walk in submission to Jim, I show our kids how to be responsible with the affairs of life. Not by what we say but how we live our lives.

I had to learn everything from books as a young bride. My folks were responsible people but they condemned me to death if I made a mistake. But as older mothers, we have to encourage and to lift our older kids up by our examples. And much of it is that we build up the homes of our loved ones by our spirits. We sure can feel it when folks are cursing us and we feel it when our older mothers are blessing us. The older woman is to teach in faith as she herself submits to her own husband as keepers at home.

We as mothers have a job to do. To teach the younger mothers homemaking. But our first job is to STUDY to be QUIET and to mind our own business. As we stay in submission and we don’t run back and forth, then the Lord can give us many miracles in our homes.

It’s not good enough to be submissive for a week. We must keep that spirit of submission in our hearts and let it bear fruit. Mark 4 speaks of the faith seed being planted and how the seed is killed because of the cares of this world and the love of Money.

As we groom our inner man (woman), we are keeping ourselves strong and virtuous. Our inner court is where we go alone to God. This is where Esther went to talk to the King. And in this inner court, many miracles will happen. It is a place of great power. It is a place where I have won many victories in my life. It is a place to go to ask the Lord for a miracle.

You must bow to enter this inner court. You must bow to your husband and to the Lord. It is here that “If you live, you live and if you die, you die.” It is a place where we often come as women when we are fresh out of any other ideas. We finally give up and let the Lord take over.

Strongholds are broken down in this inner court. It is a place of power where you stand before God as Esther did. She saved her people there in that inner court as she stood before her king. And we will save our families in no other way. We must come to this inner court, too, and give Him our all and all. We must plead with the Lord to save our families, our seeds of promise. The prayed over children of our wombs. How precious they are to us.

Dear Mothers, live for Jesus and submit to your husbands. Hide in the hallow of His hands. Plant seeds in your inner court and let them grow into fruitful gardens. Every wise woman builds up her home but the foolish tear it down with her hands. Don’t pull rank out of fear. Stay under the shadow of His wings and bear much physical and spiritual fruit for Jesus. Study to be quiet.

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