Sunday, October 22, 2017
 

Family Life

pt 5 another conclusion

This is so precious because Jim walked probably 10 miles at least to go to
work…And it was winter and it was very cold…..i cudnt get him to wear a
hat back then..This was back when we were so young and so in love..We cudnt
live with each other or without..each other…Jim wud tell me he was
hopeless and i wud say “no you arent”!!! and i wud tell God i think my
husband is really hopeless..But me and God and Jim didnt all agree Jim as
hopeless together..Thank God!!love connie

pt 4 conclusion

i forgot to say in this writing about the gloves that this was way before
Jim was came to the Lord…This was when he walked to work and we didnt
have a car..We only had one child at the time..But as the warm weather came
and i looked at the gloves laying on the table as they had played their
part for the winter…i thot as i looked at all the stitches in the gloves
that it did mean something,,It was sort of a picture of our lives,The tears
and the mending each day..We were put together with Love and that was about all…But Jesus saw us and kept us going..Two accidents going some
place..Papa at his worst trying to tell me he loved me by walking to work
in the cold..And me trying to tell him i understood by. mending his gloves
every winter evening,,,And yet we were both so fragil from the trials of
life we had only love to live on..and each day we tried to do what was
right and what said “i love you”….He was to leave me many times after
this….And his deliverence came about 9 yrs later..But some how God
continued to give us faith in Him …By the every day miracles He kept us
together in Him..Love connie

PT 3 Wise Woman builds her House

I have had such a hard time writing for these past months..i want to write
but nothing comes to me..i want the anointing ..need that Holy Spirit
anointing..But it seems a cold wind blows on my writing..A wind that blows
so hard..Its like i feel peppered by rocks ..by depression and fear..Wud i
want to write about this..well not hardly..But it seems Jim and i bounced
off of each other. But now there is no Jim to bounce off from..i have
wondered “What now Lord..what am i to do.”? i keep trying to accept the
fact that Jim is gone..and i try to forget him..But Jim is not forgetable
…Oh Mercy will this Love Story NEVER end?? well it never has ended and
probably never will.. And yet i cant just sit here and wait to go to
Heaven..i stopped just now to read my Bible..i think the Lord is saying
that Jim was far far more to me then just a husband..He and i some how
represented a new order or a new way of life..We represent a Godly
home,,,We have seen the Dr Dobsons message..and thank God for it but what
does it have to do with now? Our world has changed alot since Billy Graham
preached the Gospel..Oh yes i love Bill Graham… and his wifes writings
were some of my favorites.. But it seems there is a new world order
coming…And we Christians will have to begin a new life..At this point we
have to go back, to the land..We have become like John the Baptist..We cry
out to God in the wilderness.. And God calls back to us..And we get our
message from God alone..i think its like we will get our message by special
revelation.. In other words the Lord will speak to our hearts..more and
give us what we need from His hand.. There will be roots ..deep roots that
will teach us..i feel like Dixie was a root..She stayed on her farm and she
listened to the Holy Spirit..And yrs ago i had a vision ..The Lord spoke to
my heart that i was a writer..And i saw myself go over to Dixies
garden..And i laid upon it and the Lord filled me with the Words to
write..The Lord showed me to cry after WISDOM.. Every wise woman builds her
house but the foolish woman tears it down with her hands..Prov 14;1..

pt 3 Guess Who is coming for Dinner

Jim taught me alot as his wife..Life with Jim after he was saved was
hard…i mean it was easier in one way and yet it was hard..The men in
prison never got to see a Dr unless they were nearly dead,,Almost none of
their needs were ever met..i remember Jim invited Bill home for supper..i
ask Jim what Bill did time for and Jim said he was a paper hanger{wrote bad
checks}Jim didnt want me to be afraid..But Bill told me straight up that he
killed a man on purpose..But that the Gov, of our state gave him a
pardon..as he thot Bill didnt do it on purpose..Well Bill confesses this
just after Jim introduced me to him..i said “The blood of Jesus clenses us
from all sins..” i almost croaked ..i mean Jim knew the Lord but it took
some time for Jim to grow into the Lord…This Bill was quite the
character…But its night time and i have to go to bed ..i dont want to
talk about this when its dark outside..love connie

pt 2 Jim Died…

I miss my beloved husband..i feel starved almost to death for him..All i
ever wanted out of him was his love.And i finally got his love..And as he
was having a heart attack and they were putting an oxigen mask on him he
told the boys” take care of your mother”i looked over at Jim as he was
sitting there with the oxigen on his face..And i remained still and
stoic..it was Papas and my way to act that way..We wudnt cry out..it was
what Jim showed me to do..For 3 weeks before at home Jim told me he was
dying..He wud say “its my heart Connie” i wud never come to grips with
that,,That sounded too serious to me..Certainly my beloved cudnt have heart
trouble..But he did and he knew he did..But we both knew he wasnt going to
a hospital..He never wanted to die there,,,But i cud tell finally that it
was his heart here at home..And then i went quietly into the dining room
and looked up the phone num of the ambulance and told them to come right
away..and they did..And we were both calm and they put him in the
ambulance,and i road in the front seat..And the Drs said i called the
ambulance at the right time,,,it was perfect time. Jim never had the
heart attack until he got to the hospital and was with a Dr..But still
later he died,,,i thot the man cud never die..but he did,,The only man i
ever loved died…The only man who ever cared for me for almost 40 yrs
died,,i didnt know life cud be so hard,,i was to see him almost die right
after that…He had 4 code blues…i knew he wud never be the same,,Even
after that he told the Dr he was going home..But he never did get to come
back home,,,He died,,He died ? i cudnt believe that..Always no matter what
he did we had hope to be together again,,But not this time,,this was the
final time for him to leave..and he cudnt come back..I bet he wanted to but
he cudnt get back ..

pt 1 Called of God to be a Wife

Chrissy called today from NYC..She is such an artist,,And she sure helped
me with some advice.. She has always told me to never create for money..Or
in other words dont let money dictate to you how to create something..Its
good if you can make money at it…But dont create something only to sell
..To your own self be true in what you created..Does it say something about
who you truely are..Most artists are trail blazors.. they have a message..i
have things in my heart that i dont say..i bet the Lord wont let me get
away with that either..He has called me to be a writer.. Oh so here is what
is in my heart ..Maybe whats in my heart will make you love your husband
more,,i dont know..But here it is and what it says i dont know..My heart is
so grieved and i pine so for my husband Jim.. i want to shut the world off
and just write about Jim…i cant stop loving him..When he first died it
wasnt so hard to take..i some how kept going..But lately its so much
harder..Grief is so hard to understand..it is never predictable.. i tried
to enjoy the day today with my neighbor lady friend up the street..But my
heart is so heavy all the time for Jim.. Well i had 6 children with him and
i had one miscarriage..Papa was so grieved he wrote the date down in our
family Bible..Oh Papa and i grew up together..i was 18 and he was 25..i was
priveleged to help him..i was called of God to walk in that prison he was
in and marry him..It was my privelege..We women are called as helpmates to
our men..We are called to tame them down thru our love and our
forgiveness..This is why God called us to be creative helpers to our
husbands..We must encourage our husbands to work by being happy with what
money they give us..And a man needs to lead the family,,He needs to be the
head of the house..We as wives can be creative and make things at home…We
can learn to make the things we need..Not only to save money..But lately so
much of our food is filled with chemicles and it isnt even safe to eat..We
shud be able to make a good loaf of bread…Even white bread is better then
buyin it at the store..the chemicals make the bread last for atleast a
month..Homemade Bread only lasts about a week before mold starts to grow on
it..

Pt 3 A Mountain Mother by Connie in 2002

Rubie is powerful as she lives out of the inner court.. She has fasted this world and their opinions ..she has done this by willingly taking on submittion to her husband.. She has walked willingly over to the cart and has hitched her own self up and has put blinders on her own eyes..This is true submittion ..Walking in a worldy fear of your husband is not …of God..Infact its dangerous to walk in any kind of fear..True submittion is for a woman to willingly decide to follow God and His word..She casts down her own flesh and bridles it herself..She is a woman of integrity..and strength and virtue.. She lets go of this world and submits to her husband ..and then the gifts of the spirit begin to flow like a river..She then has the freedom to cook and sew and bake her own bread…She becomes joyous in her homemaking..The gifts of inventions begin to flow..if her money has offended her then she casts it out.. if money has stopped her from flowing in her baking then she casts it out.. Maybe housewives you could tell your husbands that you want less money for groceries.. If money gets in your way and makes you too lazy to make your own bread then cast it out..The mothers of the old times were happy because they had work to do and the family depended on them ..Maybe we as mothers today need to create our own lack…We hear so much about fasting and not eating ..And yet we are so gutted with material things .so much more wicked than food… We need to fast the material things and the things of this world.and worldly opinions ..We are drowning in sea of food and money and “things”.We need to cast down this cloud over our heads of the many voices of this world..And turn to the wisdom of God…ConnieJ says often in her writings that she can hear her mothers voice so strongly at times..and her mothers voice condemns her and leaves her feeling helpless and forsaken..Well i know how she feels as i have faced this torment too as a young mom..Many of us have with the inflow of the feminist spirit.. This voice just cuts us to the quick .It is Jezabels voice…And yet the Lord tells us to listen to wisdoms voice in His word in Proverbs..But we think Well doesnt that prove i am nuts if i go around seeing an old fashioned lady who instructs me as a helper to God.?.Jezabel makes fun of us and we think nothing of it? But God sends us wisdom as the virtuous woman and we cast her out? Do we think we are in deception when we see in our minds eye Jezabel? I mean she trys to just come in and live at our house..and we let
her..But when wisdom comes we wonder about that and think it is strange..Jezabel is the strange woman ,,not wisdom….We have learned to accept the person of jezabel…We get so worried about looking ok to the world in all that we do..We worry about our reputation and are we a good testimony to others..Well Jesus never was a good testimony to the people who didnt love God.. Solomon ask God for wisdom and God gave it to him..Ya know why ? Because he wanted it above his reputation? And above the life of his enemies..He refused to hold unforgiveness in his heart ..he gave it up in order to receive wisdom..And he could care less what folks thought of him…And he became a great man because of wisdom..he built his temple with wisdom..and this is how we are to build our homes ..” with wisdom” With wisdom a house is built ..In the end Solomon became very rich materially..But he didnt put riches first..Wisdom came first..Love ConnieH

Pt. 1 A Mountain Mother….old writing of Connie’s April 15, 2002

Dear Mothers lately i have sensed the voice of a woman from the mountains.. last nite as i went to sleep i could sense her presence.. I have heard writers on tv express how they write fiction.. I am not one to write fiction..but i can understand how these writers come up with the characters in their stories..they just have this per…son inside them…Well this mother i am going to write about ..well i will call her Rubie.. The reason i am writing her down is because i know she has something to teach us…Well i will start..She spoke out of my heart last nite..She said “We live under more pressure and danger than you mothers do..I wouldnt dream of getting up in the morning and not submitting to my husband…I have so little materially and i feel so unprotected ..We live off the land ..and yet there is much crime around us.. And yet i have found a place of refuge in God and His word.. I hide in my husbands authority..My life is much more touch and go than yours is..I wouldnt dream of not submitting to my husband..Even a step out of submission could be dangerous for me spiritually..And yet as i submit i have a peace that passeth understanding.. I love my place of submission..My place under my man is a holy sacred place..It is there that i find a perfect peace…There are times when i dont agree with him and i cant submit..these are times that horror and grief dog me and i feel that i will surely die of a broken heart..I suffer so at these times ..there seems to be no medicine to heal my torn heart..It is not because of my disobedience when i suffer like this..it is my husbands disobedience ..For a short itme i am left without a covering..its only a short time..it like a time when i have no place on the earth to rest my head…But then through my prayers my husband comes back into line..My submission to my husband is pretty every day stuff for the most part..Sure, early in the marriage he would ask me to do something and then i would consider it and then sometimes i would submit and sometimes not..We didnt have much harmony in our home..Just alot of stops and starts trying to learn to walk out our lives togehter as one..Well now years later i have learned to walk in submittion on a pretty day to day basis..He and i have it pretty much settled in our hearts..Now i can look
away from him and be free to be a mother and homemaker too.. I have a strength as i just wear my submittion to my husband …Oh sure i still have to touch base with him often ..but i am no longer walking in fear that i am not pleaseing God or that i am out of submittion to my husband..I have a confidence in the Holy Spirit that i am where God wants me.. I am in a place where i can receive the miracles i need to just keep on keeping on..But i would fear if i was not reverent to my husband ..Some of you ladies think nothing of telling your husbands off and walking away as if nothing mattered.. I am here to tell you that judgement day will come for you on that unless you repent of it..Your husband was made for God ..he is Gods son..and you are Gods helper and your husbands helper…God has chosen you to bring your man to God in a deeper way..You are not here on earth as an end in itself..YOur husband is Gods son you are a helper and will find a place of power as you take on this yoke of helper …We as mothers and wives are not to be glorified in our homes ..the glory goes to our husbands from God…We must rest in this place ..it is a holy sacred place..We must lay down our fears ….connie.

pt 3 My World

But  know my Dad was a fair man..an honest man,,,of course all the  relatives had a fit over Jim leaveing and coming back and leaveing etc..Jim wud come back and repent etc..And Jim wud be sorry.. Jim wud take any job he cud get to support us..He got one job that he had to walk to work clear into the next city.It took him almost 2 hrs to walk there,,It was a nite job so there was no buses running..after work he cud take a bus home,,But i remember Dad telling all the relatives…”Well ya gotta say one thing for Jim..he is a hard worker..And not many men wud walk that far to go to work”…Jim said it was good exercise…But Dad said that deep down Jim must have been a good man…And Dad was right,,Jim did love us and he
showed us his love .. Love connie

pt 2 The Hultquist Kids

 My Mom was always a riot…but Dad most of the time upstaged her..Well there was just 3 kids in my family ..Just me and 2 brothers..But a household with 4 boys and 2 girls is really a different story.. The 1950s  that i grew up in wasnt at all like what my home was like when raiseing my own kids..Plus i homeschooled for 15 yrs..so i let my kids make forts in the livingroom and i had 2 pianos in the livingroom too..One day my Dad is sitting in my livingroom looking at the 2 pianos on the south wall..He says
“Connie one of these days the way this old house is? those 2 pianos will
tip this house over..Well Dad was always saying things like that..scared
the livin day lites out of me,..i finally got rid of the biggest piano..It
was a really big piano.!!!. But what i will always remember that Dad used
to say when he came in my house..he wud say to me,,”Son of a Buck what kind
of an outfit are you runnin over here?”If the kids had a skinned knee or
whatever.. he wud say “What are you tryin to do to these kids.?”.i tried to
give my testimony to my Mom about how after 12 yrs the Lord gave us a new
marriage…Mom says “Well Connie you waited 12 yrs..for cryin out loud
anything cud have happened if you wait that long”…Oh she was quite the
old gal.. i loved Mom and Dad..no matter what they said to me..i miss them
both..Mom died in 2007 and Dad died in 2001 ..they were married for almost 60 yrs,,love connie

 
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