I was praying before I got up this morning, and the Lord gave me the scriptures to owe no man anything except love. Ya know, in Christendom, we think we owe the other believers a lot more than what God thinks we owe them. Our families and our duties here at home must always come first.

We as housewives and mothers who stay at home are to be dutiful at home first. The husband must come first and then the children. We as mothers should live quiet holy lives. We will never be rewarded by God for good works we do that God didn’t call us to do. We should show a pattern of good works here at home. And if our neighbors need us, then we should pray and try to meet this need. But we meet this need out of a foundation of a pattern of good works and honesty toward our own family.

This thing about “Well, I can’t stand the kids and my husband anymore, so I am going to go over and help the lady next door with her family.” Girl, what you have, you shouldn’t spread around. Stay home and get right with your own family, and then bring your peace to the lady next door. Speak out of your husband’s authority and not your own. Your own nest is your place of peace and rest, and is the rest for everyone who knows you. Get it right at home and then do your good works out of your husband’s covering. I try to never do anything outside of Jim’s covering. If I get mad at Jim, you can bet your last piece of hide I wouldn’t be here writing on this machine.

These Bible studies with women getting together to pray and try to find out their gifts, and all this stuff outside the family, is a bunch of foolishness. It’s cock and bull stories, at best. And, ya know, folks think I am radical? And what I am teaching has been going on for 1000’s of years. It’s all this pie in the sky stuff that’s just come along in about the 80’s, full force, that is radically ridiculous.

I mean, everybody knows, who has any sense, that if a woman has a baby, she is to take care of it? She is to make a home and let her husband shelter her so that she can give all of her time to her baby. Now, of course, some women, like Tiff, have to work as the husband has deserted them. But her heart is home and her children know this. But, ya know, even a chicken looks after her own brood. Animals love their babies. But the Bible talks about one of the animals that doesn’t look after their own and the word says that this bird has no wisdom. Is it the ostrich? I can’t remember. But we as women are made in the image of God and are not animals. We as women of God need to put our own families first. We need to be prudent to raise our children to know the Lord. We should release our gaze from the world and look inward to the family.

Yesterday, we had Baby Rose to care for. Jim was doing yard work and talking to his little girl through the screened in door here in the dining room. I was cooking and Baby was making messes. Grandpapa always tells Baby what a joy she is and how much he loves her. When she knows she is coming to see us, she just squeals with Joy. She loves us and we love her. Having 6 of my own children, I don’t feel complete at times until I have a child in the house. Having 6 children was the greatest joy of my life. And one reason I have been so free to love family is that I have never had a lot. But it took me years to let the world go and turn inward to the work of home and family.

I was the example to Jim — I put family first and then he did. And this man, who ran the earth like a heathen, finally proved himself a man by taking care of his family. He went from being a heathen to a Christian gentleman. And in the civilized world, this is what a man of God is … he is one who has a soft heart toward wife and children. The hard heart is the heart of divorce and separation.

And, ya know, in Romans 1, the word of God speaks of natural revelation and then special. But it means that you have a natural revelation of God as you look at His creation. Then, when you understand this, you come to Christ. But if a person doesn’t have a natural or common sense revelation of God, then how can they come to Christ? Well, in the Christian church, folks think you can jump over the natural and go on to know Christ. And this is why we have such perversion in the church. Many Christians are missing the forest for the trees. How many times do you see a female bird lay her eggs and fly away and go to another nest and forget her eggs? Nature is to teach us a natural revelation or understanding of God. But the Bible says that if we reject the natural, we will be deceived and fall into judgment. And then God will give you over to your own lusts. If you reject what is right in front of you about God, then how can you understand anything else about Jesus? You can’t!

I mean, in the heathen countries, everything is out of family order. The order of the family is the order of God. Husband is to be under God and we as wives are to be under our husbands. Our deepest affections should be for God and family. The wife should honor her man as the head of the house.

Some of the men on this group are not saved. But they are learning the ways of the family. They are learning to support the family. And this is the first step in a man’s life to come to the real Savior and Lord Jesus Christ. A man who doesn’t work and care for his family has denied the faith and is worse than an infidel. No Christian man is gonna sell his wife on the street. No woman with children should have to work. Or a woman who is married, for that matter. In this day and age, with all of the sex abuse and crime, a married woman shouldn’t have to be out fighting this stuff. Her emotions shouldn’t have to take the beating they have had.

Most of the women I know are nervous wrecks … it shouldn’t be that way. We can come into a rest in God and it comes through being domesticated and homebound. We are not the strange women who run from house to house looking for peace. The married woman should be at home. Our gifts are to make a home with homemade soup on the stove and lovin’ from the oven. I get so mad at these old biddies that put fear in the hearts of the young married wives and mothers. The young ones can’t even have a baby without the older women nagging them and chiding them. It’s a shame, and they call themselves Christians. They kill the young woman’s womb with fear and kill children daily. They ain’t Christians and will die in Hell for the hell they have caused their young daughters.

Our little grandson Romeo is age 3. Oh, my, the things that come out of his cute little face. His mom calls him a little banshee sometimes. Well, he was introduced to his Grandma Cindy’s friends and he said, “Oh, they are all a bunch of banshees.” Gram Cindy thought he said “They are all a bunch of bitches.”

Oh, poor Christine and Johnny were so embarrassed. And that boy just gives his mom and dad fits. They even get embarrassed in front of Jim and me. But I told John and Christine, “Ya know, don’t be embarrassed in front of us. We know kids and what they are liable to say. Our first son Jimmy was the same way.” But I said, “Romeo Paul is our baby, too. And whatever is the matter with him, we will help you guys with him. We are his family and we will help you. We love him and nothing he would do would make us mad.” Ya know, in other words, it’s no one’s business — we will, as a family, take care of it. All children get ornery, especially little boys. But the family needs to gather around them and pray for them and shelter them until they are ready to be out in society. No, we don’t want our children wise crackin’ to our friends and neighbors. But they are little and need to be trained.

And, ya know, Kim, I have thought about you, so worried about owing your folks money. Well, I was the same way. We owed my folks money when the kids were all young. Well, what was I gonna pay them back with — my good looks? Well, I knew that wasn’t gonna happen. We had to borrow money to keep the family going. But I was so embarrassed and so distraught over it. And it was only about 800 bucks. Good night! We have loaned just one son alone $800 and he has never paid us back. Jim finally said for him to just forget it … it wasn’t worth worryin’ over. And I mean, we are poor people. And Dan bought the most expensive car he could find and Jim cosigned on it. Jim has had good credit for years but not now. Once the car went ca-put, so did the payments from Dan. We needed to get a loan later on and couldn’t get one because of Dan. But, ya know, we figure Dan will wise up one of these days and do what’s right. He’s family and can’t get away from Mama’s praying. Jim has sure gotten after him about paying his bills.

Well, ya know, now we don’t think a thing about it. We figure that someday, we may need the help and the kids will help us in the same way we helped them. It’s family, ya know? Forgive, forget, and go on.

And, ya know, after baby’s funeral, Mary and Brandon were about to get the water turned off. Brandon hadn’t worked in a week and a half. I had some of my birthday money and Christmas cash put back in my purse to buy something special. I asked Jim if I could give it to the kids, and he said “Yes.” When I gave it to them, they were, first of all, shocked that Mama had that much money saved back. “We will pay ya back, Mom,” they said. And Brandon and Mary always do pay us back. But I said, “No, this is my birthday and Christmas present — to be able to help you guys when you need it.” I felt it was the very LEAST I could do to help these two precious grieving parents. It’s all family. And what goes around comes around. And when Mary and Brandon heard we were so low on groceries, they brought over a huge ham that someone had given them and also a small package of turkey. That is the biggest ham I have ever seen.

But, ya know, if I didn’t stay here as keeper at home and was out working with my long false fingernails, I wouldn’t be giving my precious children a place to fulfill my needs. But I stay vulnerable and serve my children with an open hand and heart. And I am thankful when they return and give back to Jim and me. That’s just family … just old time family living.

Kim, be at peace. You will eventually pay your mom back.

The grandmother should be an example of love and peace and domestication. She is older and should have some maturity on her. Enough to let her older kids fall, like mine have, and make mistakes. And she should be there to help ‘em back up when they fall. And she needs to be open and stay needy enough to accept the love and provisions her children, in their stage of life, can give her. She is to always be the example of godliness and family order and love. And, most of all, submission to her husband.

Grandmother must have a heart of love and compassion for her children, at whatever stage they are in. Kids make mistakes but its all to be covered by Mother’s love, prayers, and faith. The family needs to continually shelter and cover the least among them until they can get back up. However long it takes and whatever it takes. This is being a Christian and acting out our salvation in Christ.